Church Leadership and Covid

 

Weakness breeds disdain.

People who get pushed around bring on more bullying. Why? Because it’s an easy way for bullies to enforce their authority at very low cost. We understand this dynamic from grade school. Bullying gets rewarded when kids let themselves get pushed around. Compliance is an understandable reaction to implied force. “Give me what I want or I’ll punch you” is a direct exchange. But with every threat to violence the bully gets stronger and the compliant becomes even more compliant. It’s a tough cycle to break. Most kids experience it as some point and probably even understand the implications for future interactions. If I don’t stand my ground here I probably won’t later. It's more subtle in adulthood but still there.

This looks to be the situation in a lot of churches around the world. They’ve let the authorities tell them how, and how often to hold services. It’s despicable that after a year of “15 days to flatten the curve” (March of last year) that some countries are still cracking down on gathering, mask wearing and distancing. Even worse than that are these soft headed clergy, putting in the requisite complaints about ‘unfairness’. Are these even good faith complaints anymore? Are they just putting their objections on the record, making sure the faithful know they don’t approve? If church leaders can’t see how ridiculous and uneven the restrictions they should be replaced.

I can’t feel much sympathy for these ministers (elders, pastors) that don’t tell the authorities to leave. Respectfully but forcefully, any nanny state police or constables or bureaucrats need to be shown the door. If the state is really aggressive to the point of arresting, let them. They can’t arrest everyone. Imagine Black Lives Matter being told they couldn’t meet or march because it violated the distancing rules; how about Antifa? Would they put up with it? I think you know the answer. We know this stuff is unfair and specifically targeted at Christians. 

Get over the unfairness of it all and start pushing back. I can’t take any of these silly articles anymore where some dopey pastor lets the state tell him off.

At what point do we stop blaming the bully for their ‘unfair’ behavior and start taking initiative. It’s way past time. In the UK the police shut down a Catholic service. Look at the pictures from the mass. Citizens dutifully walking out the door as the priest is told to shut it down. It is of course despicable and absurd, but you can’t keep blaming the bully. It’s what he does.

Pushing back doesn’t mean violence either. I remember seeing a Dateline (maybe 60 Minutes) profile on NBC maybe 20 years ago. The best way for other kids to break up an ongoing fight between 2 others was to just object to it. Anyone who shouted “Hey! Knock it off!” or “That’s enough!” or “You guys quit right now!” was likely to stop it. I was floored when I saw that. Just objecting to the fight, in most cases, stopped it. The problem is when kids do the opposite; they feed the anger or encourage violence. Forcefully objecting turns out to be a statistically good idea. Dear church official, take notes. Start shouting "Leave!" or "You aren't welcome!".

I’m not saying this to pick on clergy or pastors or teachers. And their lack of grit presents the rest of us with an opportunity to take charge in the vacuum. But too many of us are used to thinking institutionally, or with the least amount of risk. The corporate structure of modern churches is as bland as it is ineffective. Time to go to the scriptures for direction instead of the board. Time to stand on the truth of Christ and His resurrection. Time to spread the gospel and stop overthinking how it might play in Peoria.

“The wicked flee when no one pursues but the righteous are as bold as a lion” (Proverbs 28:1)

There is good news though. A pastor in Calgary tossed the police out in an angry tirade, calling them “Gestapo” and “Communists” and “Evil”. It was beautiful. It was the voice of a man who recognizes this authoritarian menace for what it is. He shouted “Out!” and filmed the whole thing. When we are united in Christ and strong the disdain goes away.  

Uber and the Elevator Pitch

 

I started driving for Uber a couple weeks ago.

So far at least I’m doing 2 nights per week for 3 hours a night. That’s not a lot of course, but I have other plans to make money that don’t include driving perfect strangers around. Actually I kind of like it. I like meeting people in quick bursts. In Hollywood there is such a thing as the elevator pitch. The idea is to summarize your movie idea in the time it takes to ride an elevator. Quite a few people are transplants like me. I like to find out why they moved here and how they like it. What about this city is different? How is it similar? One guy told me he thought Tulsa was a big/little city. He meant a smaller city that wants to be larger than it is. It didn’t feel like an insult to me, more like a sense he picked up. He worked downtown in the business district and probably got that feeling from the professionals and the newspaper.

Initially I only wanted to do the Uber Eats portion. I didn’t like the idea of strangers in the car. I’m an introvert by nature and don’t like to talk people up. But I’m changing too. Delivering food wasn’t enough money. The orders weren’t happening so I decided to jump on the ride sharing part. I’ve already met some interesting, sweet and sketchy riders. One kid had to go pick up a puppy. He told me this via the notes section that the riders can send the driver. I didn’t have all the details but figured I can deal with a puppy, probably. We are required to pick up service animals but pets, I wasn’t sure. He explained along the way that he sold two huskies to a guy who decided after a few hours he didn’t want one of them.

I’m not sure how the kid talked this guy into both dogs but he did. The goal was to pick up the female but when we arrived, he walks out carrying a dog under each arm. In my head I can see two dogs pooping in my car and jumping around, scratching my seats. This doesn’t look good.

 He gave the guy back his money because he couldn’t stand the thought of both dogs being separated from each other. The puppies sat patiently on his lap while we drove away. The nightmare scenario averted. He was really down and didn’t think he’d get rid of both. His plan to give them both to the same customer seemed a little unreasonable to me. Maybe he’ll get lucky though.

I took a women home from Cici’s pizza. I had to wait for her for almost 10 minutes. I could have left of course but I’d already had one rider stand me up and I didn’t want to lose another. She had a son, maybe 6 or 7 years old with her. They had 3 pizzas which explains some of the waiting I guess. I didn’t have a seat for the kid even though I think the nanny state requires it for kids up to 9 or 10? Anyway it didn’t matter because they needed a ride. She was pleasant, talking about the books she liked and how she stayed up late to read. Her son had a tough ride. He kept asking for his lemonade, his mom said no. He asked again, she said no again. Each time the “NO” had a little more of an edge to it. I did feel bad for him. We were in car for almost 30 minutes-the aroma of pizza and breadsticks reminding him of how hungry he was.

Uber requires a mask for drivers and passengers. I don’t wear it though unless the passenger gets weird about it. I ask them first because passengers could give me a poor rating for something like that. I’ve probably had 50 people in the car so far and only 1 requested I wear it. He looked a little skittish to me about getting in the car, like a boy taking his first swimming lesson. I put the thing on though and he warmed up OK. I guess I’m getting pretty good at the elevator pitch. Good enough to allow people to relax at least.

Something tells me I’ll have a few stories to tell with this job.

Next Step New Plan

 

I got my first WordPress website started. It’s funny how people talk about it like it’s easy to use, clean and effortless. Those are people who build web pages and work with content all day. To them it is easy, for me the process of picking themes and trying out new looks it tedious. There is also the awkward amount of fiddling with colors and fonts to make it look right that adds too much time wasting. Before you realize it you’ve burned 4 hours clicking and unclicking. The fact that I paid good money for the hosting makes me take it a little more seriously. But I have zero knowledge about these types of web based tools. It’s just going to take longer than I’d like. That’s true of anything new I guess.

I began this whole idea because I wasn’t selling enough of my posts on the third party platform. I’ll explain: I do a little bit of writing through a company that hires writers for short assignments. It doesn’t pay well but it keeps my skills sharp and provides an easy way to make a few bucks. But lately I’ve been getting stepped over by other writers and rejected altogether. It’s not my writing they don’t like, usually it’s just too competitive. Some companies decided they want a different feature after they’ve already listed instructions. It’s frustrating because of the hours I’ve spent writing to their specs. This is part of the deal with writing anything for customers though, sometimes they dump you. The problem is the money isn’t good enough to risk waiting on flaky customers.

I’ll keep driving for Uber instead. Unless...

If I can get my own customers, even if just once in a while I’d make more money. So that’s the idea for the WordPress site. Another issue is the lack of actual work to show. Most WP sites are beautifully displayed with corporate logos of companies the writers have worked with, their pages laid out like trophies in a case. Or the sites are stuffed with information like a Wikipedia page. Mine is basically a digital business card. I’m OK with that for now. It will develop over time as more options become available and the work increases. I’m learning a lot of new terms as well as how the plugins work. It’s a lot of information all at once.

I have to remind myself that this is really new territory for me. I don’t like graphic design and having to size and re-size images. I don’t like sorting through themes and colors and options for every inch of the site. I probably could have stuck to a basic layout on blogger but I wanted the best. So I have to learn it. Knowing how to get through some basics of WordPress page building is for the best. This is actually something I need to do. I considered not doing a page until I got a little bit more established. But I wanted something to point people to and my personal blog (first principles) covers opinion stuff. It’s not exactly business friendly.

So for now I’ll be content with my digital business card and build the site like I build everything else, one brick at a time.

Spring Into Fit

 

I love this time of year. After a cold winter a warming spring is just the break I need. It hasn’t really been a cold winter since I left Illinois. We had a few record breaking weeks in the middle part of February but basically it was manageable. When I talk about running the weather is always the main component because so much depends on where to run and what to wear. The low 40’s are a great temperature for running and if you can catch a non-rainy day, all the better. I need to get them in before the warmth really ramps up. I think I mentioned in my last post that I’m back to running alone. It seems strange to think of group training as too much pressure, but I didn’t want to start a third session and quit if my foot started acting up. So I set my own schedule, which is probably less aggressive and doesn’t have the really long runs.

There isn’t much point in doing really long runs. I’m not training for a marathon so I’m not killing myself on the consistent over ten miles. I do miss the company though. Now though, if I’m having a particularly painful day with my foot I just won’t run. It seems simple but when I’m committed to a group I grit my teeth and push through the pain. No more of that, at least for now. I go two days per week. Once in the morning, at the gym and once on the weekend. That usually means Saturday morning but if it rains I’ll do Sunday.

This is the first time in my life that I’ve dedicated the first 30 minutes of a workout to cardio. I’m talking strictly about daily A.M. workouts at the gym. The idea is to keep my weight even and build strong legs, so I use the stair climber or the stationary bike. I don’t like to lift heavy weights anymore; my legs used to be sore for days afterward. So I stopped doing it and decided to focus on cardio only. I do a little jump rope as well, anything to make jogging a little less exhausting. Weak muscles cause injury and I’m trying to avoid it as much as possible. I’m also putting more attention into stretching which can feel like its own little workout.

I don’t believe I’d ever give up weights for jogging though. I won’t say never, but I have changed the type of exercise that works best for me over the last 20 years. In college I went heavy on all the typical stuff, bench press, shoulder press, lat pulldowns. Cardio was an afterthought. Today it’s the opposite. The transition happened slowly but after a few straining injuries the heavy and the big don’t appeal as much. A lot of the shift is driven by excess fat and the need to keep it under control. Once you realize that it gets exponentially more difficult to lose pounds it forces a rethink about exercise.

I’m all for sports too. I know a lot of guys in basketball and soccer leagues that stay fit going up and down the court for an hour. I guess I’m a more solitary type. I haven’t been in a sport’s leagues, softball being the last one, since a decade. It’s OK though. I don’t feel like I’m missing it either. I guess that’s just another transition for me, like the weather in the spring.

 

Collective Irresponsibility

 

Ever see a sign or an ad on a webpage that didn’t look quite right. The words are correct but the statement sounds awkward. We can read something fast and process the meaning later. The agreement between what we saw and what the message means is a little off.  

This isn’t just true of words on a screen. If you’ve ever driven a car in a foreign country you’ll understand this feeling. A few years ago I rented a car in Ireland and drove around the country stopping at bars, hotels and touristy landscapes. There were three of us, my brother included, that shared the driving. The roads are smaller, you drive on the left side and through a lot of roundabouts. Once you break the instinct to drive on the right, it isn’t too bad. There were a few close calls. As an American the driving is familiar but not quite right. My baseline for traffic is wide streets that go forever and too many lights.

When something isn't quite right it’s because our familiarity is affected by slight changes in the logical ordering.

 I watched a discussion recently with a couple of Christian leaders talking about their views on the vaccine. The older one, mid 40s, wasn’t going to take it. He reasoned that the survivability rate was so low it wasn’t worth getting an extra injection. I’ll call this the pragmatic view- the reasoning being that the vaccine is not necessary for a disease that amounts to a bad Flu virus.

The second leader, 30ish, was going to take it because as a Christian it’s the helpful thing to do for the elderly and the susceptible. I’ll call this the collectivist view-as it’s about the general health of the overall population. The first view makes sense to me and second one doesn’t. There is something a little off about the second argument. Whether used in the context of Christian or not, it sounds wise and selfless at first but a closer look reveals the anti-free nature of it.

America is a country built on the value of the individual; a worth that is tied to the nature's God, born with inherent rights and decision making ability. American law is rooted in individual sovereignty that can’t be removed by men (government and business) because it is central to how we are created. We make decisions for ourselves and we live with the consequences.

But don’t Christians care about the poor and the needy? Doesn’t Jesus clearly state in Mathew to “…love your neighbor as yourself”? Yes, but the command is given to the person not the group. Here is what Paul says in Galatians 6:4-5: “But let each one examine his own work, and then he will have rejoicing in himself alone, and not in another. For each one shall bear his own load (NKJV)

And here is another thing, Americans are generous people when we donate to causes. That’s the power of individual concern for collective groups. There are countless aid organizations (NGOs) that raise private money from individuals because FEMA couldn’t do it alone.

Collectivist thinking reduces the importance of individual rights. Individual rights are a lot like vacation days at work--use them or lose them. We may find them missing when we need them. It’s why I’m not anti-vaccine generally, but side with people who are because it should remain a choice.

The reason this last year has been so frustrating to me is I don’t recognize the arguments for lockdowns. It isn’t just about the lack of freedom, it’s the artificial displays of ‘selflessness’ that are hard to take. Here I’m talking about mayors, city councilors and governors that assumed the right to impose mask mandates and shut down what they wanted. The actions beg the question “who are you exactly?”  

Do you also eat healthy foods and limit calories for your fellow man? Medicaid is hospital money for the poor that’s funded by taxpayers. In other words it’s a collective fund that depends on the clean living of its members. How is it working?

 Giving up personal choice for the collective doesn’t help anyone. It hurts the principle of self-determination, the very thing our Deceleration was written to defend. We make food choices for ourselves and reap the consequences. It’s how we are designed.

We all have different reasons for taking the vaccine or refusing to take it. For Christians though, understand that your decision is about you and only you. The logic of collective responsibility is like the poor grammar on the sign--it’s not quite right.

 

Be Grateful for Work

 

Someone congratulated me today. I’ve been with the same company for 13 years this month. They must have scrolled through a notification for the update. On LinkedIn no doubt, the social media page with spiffed up profiles (Oh he's wearing a tie!) where we're all fluent in business jargon. Nothing wrong with it of course; those anniversaries are consistent reminders of steady progress. But depending on your idea of the professional choices you’ve made it might leave a sour taste. Don’t let it. 

 There are two ways to look at work anniversaries. One, complain that life is unfair and your real gifts are being underutilized. Two, be thankful that in a time when a lot of Americans see their jobs disappear, yours is still here. I’m still working, making money, saving and paying bills. I’m still learning new ways to bring business to my store. I’m still improving old methods and sharpening up sloppy habits that cut into my performance. I’m still learning to adjust to the realities of Covid and get through the day without cursing the restrictions, most of the time.

Work anniversaries can be depressing if your vision is too narrow. Like looking through the wide end of the telescope, it appears small and insignificant. We miss a lot of personal and professional development along the periphery when we stare into the glass with an intense focus. Why do we do this? Why do we focus so hard on the faraway, the distant and the exotic? Probably because reliable, steady work habits aren’t the stuff of Champaign toasts and fancy dinners. There is no adventure in the consistent, no legend in the ordinary. There is no party for the reliable.

Personal growth and maturity come from consistency whether at work or in the gym. Feelings don’t matter. If there is one thing I’ve picked up it’s that habits breed habits. It works for positives and negatives. It’s that inner voice telling you that your regular, boring habits aren’t leading to anything better. But if the slow churn of life creates calluses for the next phase you’ll appreciate the pain. For a lot of us that means promotions and more money. It could mean a new business opportunity or the chance to go it alone and self-employ with all the risk and rewards.

We all love the consummate winner. Tom Brady and Michael Jordan made it look easy but their drive to win was built by consistent habits and boring daily churn. We all know this right? Competitors understand how good habits over long periods of time lead to success. But we need to hear it repeated until the notion of success as work sticks to us like lint on a wool jacket. If we don’t evaluate our lives periodically we risk losing our passion for better. Evaluation gets us back to goal seeking. Keep asking yourself what that looks like. Keep redirecting and trying new things.

I guess that’s the real value of a work anniversary, the ability to self-evaluate. You might not like what you see at first. But by now you’ve probably discovered a few things about yourself that should help with the directional goals. If you hate the idea of talking to customers on any level, stay out of the service industry PLEASE! Maybe you’re a competent teacher. You’re patient with tech dopes like me, go with that.  There are so many ways to make money aside from punching a clock. Teach an online class, write marketing pitches, answer phones and sell vacations. These are all ways to start from home.

Somewhere along the way we made “work” into something otherworldly—a journey toward self-fulfillment and ideal scenarios. That’s a heavy load to bear for any career, and it’s terribly un-realistic. I’m not sure where it came from but I always had a dose of it as well. Thankfully “work” sorted me out.     

The telescope is for dreaming. It’s not detrimental to look up to the stars unless our work ethic is nonexistent. But we need to pull back from the eyeglass on occasion and see our own growth. Look at what’s around you that needs attention before squinting one eye and star gazing. Develop those skills and gifts that are in front of you first, then move on. The good news is that progress isn’t a straight line up and to the right for anyone. We all need to grind a little.

 We all need to feel earned success from working away in obscurity for a while.

So don’t complain about the trials or the unfairness or the difficulty. It’s necessary for everyone. Celebrate the long and short term successes. Remember the sacrifices and the victories, no matter how small. 

When someone congratulates you for 13 years with the same company, smile and say “Has it been that long?”

Chump Change

 

I need to make some money quick. Every week is a close to call to see if I can get to the next pay period without having some issue funding issue come up. It’s a stressful feeling for anyone who’s had financial issues at all. Not that my shortage every week is the same as someone in record debt, paying exorbitant penalties, but it’s still tough. Financial burdens are one of those loads that don’t lift until you make serious choices to change it. For me it means starting a part time job. I applied with a company that does ride serving for older couples (mostly) that need additional help to and from the car. This means a lot of grocery stops and hospital visits but the work is pretty steady, I guess. I haven’t started yet because my driver’s license is expired and I didn’t find out about it until I started doing the paperwork.

That’s on me. But getting a new one isn’t as easy as it used to be. None of the tag agencies I normally go to had any available slots and some even had appointment setting. I hate Covid so much! It’s one giant excuse to tell customers to F-off while they take it easy. I’m not picking on the Tag agencies; we’ve done this at my store too. It’s an excuse to be mediocre and the rest of the world is taking advantage! Sorry. . . a little put off.

I can’t go to the place and sit for 3 hours, hoping to be seen between Monday and Friday. I have to work the same hours and I’m not taking any more time off, it’s getting expensive. If I can't do it over lunch then forget it. So my paperwork with the rideshare company is on hold until I get a proper license. I ordered and paid for a replacement already but without the actual plastic I’m just SOL. I found out another aspect of the job that makes me think it won’t work anyway. Most of the pickups are between the hours of 8 and 5, better known as the time I work a regular job! No weekends and no evenings. So the best I could do is shuttle some early birds around before the sun is up. That takes care of what? 2 hours max? So I opted for Uber Eats as a second choice.

They’re app is easy to use I’ll give them that. I uploaded all but one of the required documents. Guess which one? 

I called them and asked if I could use my temporary proof of payment on a new license until the physical thing comes in. They didn’t like the idea anymore than the other service. So I’m stuck waiting for the square plastic card with my mug on it to arrive. Until the mopes at the Oklahoma Safety department cut and paste my image I’m just kind of in limbo. I’ve not had the best attitude about the whole process, I know you’re shocked.

I do have one option available to me, writing for chump change. I’ve done so the last 4 nights. It’s been a while and I’m a little rusty, but I do remember most of how to research and write little tid-bit blogs and customize them to certain businesses. It might take me a month or so to get into a comfortable rhythm and churn out copy, enough to call it a part time job. It’s always been less than that because the money isn’t great ($23) for roughly 2.5 hours of work but I’ve never really went after it either. You aren’t guaranteed a sale, so that time you spent studying up on different kinds of leathers for a handbag retailer could all be for naught if they buy from another blogger. It’s never a good feeling when they like your piece but won’t purchase because some schmuck beat you to it. Well good for them I guess, they found a way to get it first.

For now I’ll set a goal of 4 blog entries per week and if I sell them all I’ll be happy. Or I’ll split time dropping off Taco Bell orders and writing about software viruses for third party sellers.

Good night.